VIGNETTES
from
Knotts Island Diary
by Sue Fentress Austin
Edgar Wright Brumley and Minnie Hall Ballance met and apparently
fell in love at a musical “happening" at Ezzard Simpson’s place. His
house was situated at the far end of Blackfoot Road at the turn of the
20th century. Ed Brumley was sitting on the stairstep, inside the
hallway and close to the fiont parlor, where the musical sounds of
probably a banjo and a violin and maybe even a piano, were being
listened and danced to. Minnie, too, was present and even though she
was five years younger than he, this energetic young lassie apparently
caught his eye. They courted and very soon married. Minnie, even after
the babies came, would often hum to herself and do a little square of
"jig” dancing around the house. The old Simpson House seemed destined
to remain in the family given the fact that Ed and Minnie’s oldest
daughter lived in it for awhile. Nita and her husband, Ulysses Dixon,
bought it along with some land, and as they awaited the construction of
their new home being built next door, temporarily lived in the house.
By then it was in a very run-down condition.
On many mornings Minnie would rise early, 4:45 AM, to kill chickens
for
Sunday dinner. There was a special stump in front of the backyard
woodpile, and Minnie would lay the chicken’s neck across the stained
block of wood. Then with a small hatchet, she would neatly chop off
each chicken’s neck. Then the horribly fascinating sight of headless
chickens running here and there, their wings flapping wildly, minus of
course their heads! Finally they would complete their dance of death
and keel over. The author can describe this sight vividly since as a
small child she used to watch her “Mimmie" expertly swing that old
hatchet! In the Brumley family, dinner was the noon meal and supper the
final meal ofthe day. Minnie would dress them (process of plucking
feathers from the dead chicken after putting the chicken in very hot
water, cleaning out the guts and cutting up the chicken) and the family
would enjoy fried chicken after returning home from church. And,
regardless of the summer heat, the old cook stove in the kitchen was
always in use. Boiled potatoes would often go along with the Sunday
fried chicken.
Adell’s diary contained numerous entries regarding the sewing done
by
her sister, Nita. Seems as though the babysitting of the younger
brothers, especially little Paul, was mainly handled by Adell who
enjoyed taking care of rambunctious Paul. Their mother was not
especially fond of sewing; besides, she had plenty of other chores to
keep herself busy. Ruth and young EW no doubt were kept equally busy
doing other things. Nita loved sewing and says that she did not beg to
look after the younger children. During the year of 1932 alone, Nita
stayed extremely busy .... cut of our spring coats, fixed my red
dress
longer, made new blue dress and light linen dress, made Ruth a new
white dress, made green dress and made white blouses.
Nita and Adell were in the 8th grade when little brother Paul
arrived.
The two sisters. ages 13 and 14, spent an anxious December 18, 1928, at
Creeds High School wondering about what was happening at their home.
They knew the baby’s arrival was imminent when they had left home
earlier that morning. In those days, children were sent away from home
until the little ones were born. Their Aunt Clara (Caffee) Capps met
the bus at the lane that aftenoon near where Izola Waterfield Bonney
now lives. Clara preferred that the children simply call her "Clara".
She lived with her husband, Nevy, and their children Bernise, Nancy and
Caswell in a house located on a dirt road that went through the field
between the present Knotts Island School and Brumley
Road. Clara loved flowers
and always had a beautiful yard. She fixed them (the "them” probably
also included Adell’s other
two siblings too) supper and finally everyone was sent for — little
red-faced Paul had arrived. Nita
and Adell were told that little brother was an early Christmas present.
Nita was not thrilled to rock Paul’s little cradle and devised a
scheme
to make the tiresome
chore a sight easier. She went and found her mother’s bag of scraps
(for piecing quilts) and
proceeded to tie them together. The whole idea was to make a long strip
that would stretch
and stretch, right on out of the room and down the long hall. Nita then
deposited herself out
on the front porch and just continued to pull on the line ever so often
to keep that baby happy.
Problem was — Nita was by now so far away from the cradle that
Paul’s crying did not even
begin to reach her ears! And to make matters worse, the cradle no
longer rocked because the
line was just too long. But the noise of the crying baby DID reach her
mother’s ears and she
came a-hurrying to investigate. She was a mad momma! Not only had Nita
been ignoring
the little guy, but she had also managed to ruin many of her mother’s
valued scraps for
piecing together quilts for the cold winter nights. The punishment is
lost over the years, but
no doubt there was something "special" for Nita’s lack of babysitting
skills!!
Nita and Adell were only 18 months apart in age but in temperament
they
were m-i-l-e-s apart! Adell was quiet, reserved and generally went
"along
with the program," but
her sibling, Nita, was another story. What Nita called "the pond
incident” is a classic
example of a headstrong child. Nita had gotten in trouble over
something or other, and her
mother had gone for the switch to use on her defiant child. There was
water in the front yard
and Nita did not stop until she was standing smack dab in the very
middle of that pond! So
when her poor mother reappeared with switch in hand, there stood Nita
with her only pair of
everyday shoes on. Her mother stood as close along the edge as she
dared without getting her
own shoes wet and yelled, "Nita, you come out of that water right now!
I’ll get you!” Nita
did not budge. Finally her angry mother left; she was not about to wade
out into the middle.
Nita recalled so vividly, over seven decades later, just standing
there, out in the middle of that
pond, for a very, very long time. Finally, however, she did have to
come out and face her
angry mother. And yes, she did get her "switching" and probably it was
twice as hard for
being so defiant. That was our little Nita early on, a determined and
very strong-willed little
girl.
Minnie Brumley said to Essie (Fentress) White, her closest neighbor
and
very best friend, as
they sat piecing a quilt: "Edgar never comes home fiom school and says
anything. However,
as soon as Paul gets home I know exactly what the teacher was wearing,
everything she ate
for lunch and who got into trouble in the class!” Paul was probably the
most talkative of the
Brumley children, followed closely by Ruth. Another cute notation about
Paul related to
report card time during his school years. His mother said, ‘Paul, what
happened?” as she
looked down at his not-as-good-as-expected report card.
His reply, “You always tell us not to waste anything and I didn’t! I
had enough to pass.”
In February of ’32, the diary mentions that Bill Fentress (called
Willie then) had to have his tonsils removed and did so in the office
of a dentist no less! Oh yes! Afterwards he enjoyed replaying the tale
to his buddies of how those tonsils looked just like an old bloody
oyster to him!
Adell would always ask for a bis-it everytime her parents took her
to
see Aunt Clara (Brumley) Simpson. Finally they decided to fill her up
BEFORE the planned visit. They fed the child and off the family happily
went. During the chitchat at Aunt Clara’s, she asked little Adell why
she didn’t want one of her biscuits? Adell replied, no doubt with a sad
look on her face, "They wouldn’t let me ask for a bis-it."
Another fondly recalled occasion was Miss Nita and the Hay Loft
Affair.
She, Adell, and their cousin, Nancy Capps were all playing in the
family barn, in their favorite spot – the hayloft. Nancy was one or two
years older, but apparently joined in the fun right along with her
Brumley cousins. There was a lot of loose hay and they were a-slipping
around, falling here and there and having the best old time. The most
fun of all was to swing on the second floor door, while holding onto
the wooden frame just above. Before she realized what was happening,
Nita had slung herself right out the second floor. Her little body went
flying across the empty space and loudly dropped onto the bottom of the
ground floor. She had the wind knocked out of her and just about scared
poor Nancy and Adell to death! Someone ran and got the two mammas who
no doubt were relieved that Nita had only knocked herself out and
wasn’t dead. Nita remembered being very, very sore the next day. In
today’s world, the ambulance would be called, many x-rays taken and the
child probably observed overnight at a local hospital.
Adell wrote about her mamma sitting on the front porch, no doubt
rocking the baby of the family, Paul. Meantime, Adell, her Papa and the
oldest son, EW, played ball out in the front yard. She mentions in the
same diary entry of reading stories to Paul and of him kicking her and
how she pretended to be hurt and crying. Some pretend games just never
go out of style, do they? Adell never tired of playing with her
brothers. One game remains a mystery as to what it exactly was or how
it was even played. We only know about it because of the note written
on April 14, 1935. . .Played games with Paul, 4 legs/This & that.
The
author
is
touched that Adell interjected her narratives with these
little snippets of everyday life. Most often these glimpses of Adell
related to the little ones. Once she wrote on a day she stayed home
sick from school that Paul is sitting here beside me on the chair
arm
as I write this. He was the wee one who most definitely touched her
heart.
Edgar Wright (EW as Adell referred to him in her diary) was the
oldest
son, and rather quiet like his middle sister, Adell. EW often had his
little friends over to his house to play, eat with him and spend the
night. He, in turn, visited at their houses, sometimes overnight too.
August 2, 1936.. .Tonite Ruby and Albert came. Albert stayed all
night
with EW and Paul. EW was on that particular night a month shy of
his
14th birthday. Burnice Waterman was another childhood friend, as was
Tunis Corbell. October 17th was EW’s birthday; an annotation on that
date, reads. . .Helped to cook E W’s birthday dinner. He invited
Ruby
White, Katherine Pallet, Margaret Waterfield, Thelma Ewell Bernlie,
Bernice Waterman, Tunis Corbell. They ate dinner with him. He was 12
years old. Had chicken, creamed potatoes, salad pepper & cake. Had
a good time. Pa & EW went fishing this PM didn ’t catch any.
The Frank Hughes family lived across the field, between the Brumley
house and the schoolhouse. There were three little boys: Melvin, Frank
Jr., Ervin and a girl named Violet. Whenever they visited, EW and Paul
would have a noisy time playing. A favorite spot of the rambunctious
boys was under a large table in the Sitting Room. Violet, Nita and
Adell would go into another room where they could visit in peace and
quiet.
Paul Cromwell, the youngest of the Brumley children, was the very
first to be bundled into the car and driven over to see Doctor
Nicholson. The good doctor lived on the main road, just beyond the main
area of Creeds, VA. Paul had not even started school, so he was under 6
years of age. It seems this youngster, after observing his father feed
the hogs and noting how much they enjoyed "eating" corn with their
noses, tried to do the exact same thing! Of course, as soon as he
"snorted” his corn, young Paul realized he was in real trouble! The
ingested corn would not come out and he went crying to his mamma. His
mother could see the corn, but was unable to retrieve the small grains.
She feared the corn would get to his brain and he would die. His
parents were also fearful that Paul would get upset with all their
probing, start crying and suck the corn further up. Nita was enlisted
to walk the child around in the yard outside, amusing him while her
parents got ready for the trip. Soon Ed and Minnie were on their way to
Creeds, a trip between 30 to 60 minutes depending upon the condition of
the dirt roads. On the way to Creeds, Paul fell asleep. As they drew
closer to the doctor’s house, Paul’s mother noticed a small grain of
corn on the cover of his blanket. She
searched closer and found still another. It soon became obvious that
our "little piggy" was free of his corn problem, so happily the old
Essex was turned around and home they all went.
Still another “Paul" story was all about the fish bone that wouldn’t
come up and wouldn’t go down. The Brumley supper menu the night before
read more of same — fried fish. Paul was not as cautious as he should
have been picking out the bones and got one stuck in his throat. His
parents sent him on to school the next morning, but were concerned
about the little fellow’s problem. Paul’s father heard that Doctor
Nichols was on the Island visiting some sick folks so he went looking
for him. The problem was explained and he and Doctor Nichols went
together to the schoolhouse to seek out Paul. Permission was obtained
from his teacher and Paul was called out into the auditorium; the bone
removed by the good doctor.
In later years when Paul was fussing at Nita to see a doctor about
some
of her ailments, she reminded him that no one years ago ever went to a
doctor unless there was a major problem. She recalled that his siblings
NEVER went to the doctor and that he was the sick one of the family.
She was correct that country people did generally attend to their aches
and pains themselves, no doctor visits for a sniffle, cough or runny
nose. Most of the time our bodies cure themselves given time and rest.
Nita and Adell’s mother had made her two eldest daughters look-alike
dresses, as she often did when they were young. Minnie had sewed them
in the current style, which was low-waisted with a lovely sash that
tied in the back. The girls were generally dressed alike because as
sisters they would fight over outfits if everything was not exactly
alike! Nita was dressed first for church. Her mother made the pretty
“finger curls" that almost touched her shoulders and she was told to go
and play while Adell was being dressed. Wow! 'That was surely a
mistake. Nita wasted no time heading outside for the "fox grapes" which
were wild grapevines, growing at the corner of the house. This little
monkey did not stop until she was immersed in the vines, swinging
around and around. It is not too hard to visualize what happened next.
The gathered portion of the dress skirt got caught, and almost
completely ripped away. Little Nita knew immediately she was in BIG
trouble. She ran inside, tears-a-flowing, with tattered dress in hand
to show her mother. She remembers imploring her mamma to "please put my
skirt back on”. Her mamma was not amused and after scolding her
tomboyish child told her, "I am not going to even try, you will just
have to wear an old dress!"
This was an unthinkable solution that Adell would get to wear her
new
dress, while Nita was to be stuck in an old one. "Too bad." her momma
said. "Good punishment for disobeying!" Nita recalled that she just
cried and cried. After all the intervening years, Nita still remembered
her sadness at wearing that old dress while her sister was in a pretty,
new frock. Big sister was too full of energy and seemed to have no
trouble getting into mischief.
Probably one of the worst punishments Nita ever received was when
she
and her younger sister Ruth were fighting over a kerosene lamp they
used to study by. The girls were arguing and fussing over the lamp and
pulled on it hard, so hard that it actually broke in two! It could have
easily caught the house on fire; fortunately their father was close by
and quickly extinguished the fire. He told them they were going to get
a "laming" (spanking). The sisters had to wait all that day and part of
the next for their punishment. Finally he told them to go into the
Branch (a wooded area bordering on the yard) and “get a switch apiece,
and get a good one or else you will go back and fetch another!" Mostly
though it was their mother who disciplined the children so the few
times when their daddy handed out the “lamings," the children never,
ever forgot them
In the summer of 1932 Adell happily writes in her diary that
Ruth
found
my
little doll’s cap. This is an interesting statement and we
wonder
why an already graduated senior would even care. Adell, like many girls
growing up on Knotts Island, cut out pictures of doll clothing from the
few available books/magazines and would have have even cut out "people"
figures to be the "dolls”. Rarely did a little girl own a real doll to
dress, and certainly not the Brumley girls. Adell would have had a
little treasure box where she kept her dolls and their paper clothes.
This little hat that Ruth found rated a special note in her diary.
Adell was obviously pleased. Quite possibly Ruth, age 13, had been the
one playing with the dolls and had earlier lost the little cap. We can
sense Adell’s pleasure.
Effie Waterfield and her daughters came to get their hair cut
frequently. One of them, Irma, was just getting over Yellow Jaundice, a
condition that causes the eyeballs and skin to have a particular yellow
"look." Nita, Adell and Ruth also came down with the same condition and
spent a good portion of the summer in bed. When the sun went down,
older sister Nita commented that because Ruth had the darker
complexion, her yellowish skin took on a very weird and ugly look. All
the sisters felt sick, sometimes ached and foods did not always taste
very appetizing. Many days they would just stay in bed and rest.
Nowadays we call that
disease hepatitis, an inflammation of the liver. In the late ‘20s and
into the ‘30s, people on the Island contacted this disease but just
continued as best they could to lead a normal life. No one thought
anything about visiting back and forth, going to church, and attending
school. The cold bug of today is probably a good comparison. People do
not really stop their going unless the cold turns into something else.
Similarly in Adell’s day it was the same way. Folks just did not
realize how potentially dangerous being jaundiced could be.
On June 22, 1934 Adell writes
Ruth is very sick with poison on
her
face. Ma & Nita went to Mr. Bonney’s to get something for it
(coppers). I read the rules for action. Tonite Ruth said she had a
dimple like Jim Miller. And the next day Adell again talks about
her
sister’s problem — Ruth still very sick with poison. Efie &
children came to get hair cut. Tonite Lester & Bill came. I rode to
clubhouse & back Stopped at restaurant. Down towards the South
End
was Mr. Ottma Bonney’s Store. The gentlemen Ruth was referring to, Jim
Miller, was a favorite visitor at the Brumley house. He was handsome,
could sing wonderfully and was fun to be around. He and Lester
Waterfield enjoyed singing duets in the churches. The clubhouse was
owned/operated by a man named Corey. A classmate, Alvah Jones, operated
the little restaurant. He sold ice cream, drinks and the sweet stuff
that all young folks enjoy.
When the author asked her Aunt Nita about the individual
personalities
of her brothers and sisters, she said:
Nita called herself stubborn and headstrong, somewhat of a tomboy,
always sliding down ditch banks on the way home from school.
Adell was quiet and at college she would always say, "Nita, what are
you going to do?”
Ruth was smart, never really grew up, in that she was always the
"baby
girl." She enjoyed being the youngest, spoke what she thought and it
didn’t bother her whether another liked what she said or not. She was
quicker at the process of thinking than the rest of the children.
Edgar never talked much, quiet, even more so than Adell.
Paul was the baby of the family, talkative and expressive like his
sister, Ruth.
Ruth had ordered her graduation ring in 1934. Adell’s October 29th
entry says Ruth told about rings to come tomorrow. Oh dear, what a
time
it was. I wonder? ? How things will turn out. Don 't know how she will
get it. The money did not seem to be available to pay for this ring
and
reading between the lines, we can see the family was terribly upset. If
"talk" got around in the community, it would have been an embarrassment
to the proud Brumley family. Ruth did go to school the next day,
Tuesday. Adell, at home still searching for a teaching job, writes
Miserable day. Wonder about ring. What she did. Mr. Chaplain got
pecunia for R ’s
ring. And the next day, Wednesday, the diary reads that
Ruth
got her
graduation ring. No doubt Ed Brumley paid back the pecunia (money)
as
soon as he could sell something from his farm.
Another Ruth crisis was
in November of 1934. Adell writes about Ruth telling the family about
fussing on the bus, about the seats. Adell says on the 15th that
Ruth
wouldn
't
do as Miss Pickens said and slip to back of bus. She and Miss
Moye came PM. Had Board Meeting about Ruth. Pa took appeal. Ruth
was
sent to school the next day, Friday. That evening Adell says that
Lester came and he and Pa talked about the bus trouble. And on
Monday a
final entry relating to the bus matter said Mr. Elliott went to see
Pa
about Ruth. And so the saga of the bus incident ends. Whatever the
problem, it got resolved satisfactorly and her father, in taking an
appeal, apparently supported his daughter 100%. Mr. Elliott was
affiliated with the School Board, most likely the chairman.
Nita Lee Brumley, by 1939, was contemplating marriage. She and
Ulysses
Dixon had been going together for several years, but until her loan was
paid off to Mr. Knapp, marriage was never a consideration. It had taken
her five years of teaching to finally make that last payment, on
December 20, 1939. Today it seems hard to believe what the women
teachers of yesterday had to endure. First of all, in most communities,
a married teacher was not welcome. Getting married meant automatically
becoming a bad influence for the children. When Nita first decided to
marry, she told her school system (Washington) six weeks ahead of time
as stipulated in her contract. Mr. Beale, the principal and at whose
house she boarded, called a Committee Meeting about this looming
situation. It was decided she could stay and complete her second
teaching year. She would, however, stay in the Teacherage beginning in
January, 1940, and not be allowed to leave but one weekend a month to
spend time with her new husband. December 20th was both the final loan
payment to Mr. Knapp and Nita’s Wedding Day. Ulysses Dixon and his
young bride decided to drive to South Mills, a town near Elizabeth
City, NC to be married. The Clerk of Court saw that the male had
Virginia as his residence, not North Carolina, and could not marry
them. The Clerk inferred that Ulysses could use a NC address — in other
words sort of tell a little lie. Ulysses said, "I have waited this long
to get married and I’ll be damned if I will tell a lie!"
They returned sadly to the car and Nita asked, "Just what are you
going
to do with me at this time of the night? We are not married and it’s
too far to drive back to Knotts Island." Ulysses had another unmarried
relative living with him and Nita definitely could not stay in a house
with two unmarried men. Simply unheard of behavior for a woman,
especially a teacher in 1939. They remembered that Lacy Ansell from
Knotts Island was an Assistant Clerk of Court in the Portsmouth area
and they sought him out for help. He agreed to return to his office and
issue the license. Lacy got his wife and met them at Deep Creek and the
Justice of Peace finally married them. From there, they traveled to
Knotts Island, legally husband and wife at last!
At first Nita was only able to go home one weekend each month to be
with her new husband. Mr. Beale, ever supportive of his former boarder,
told Nita about a school named Riverside, located in Bertie County,
where married teachers could continue teaching. So she was hired for
the next year in what proved to be a very good move. This school was in
Colerain, NC and the class she was offered was the same age group she
had student teached at college, 6th graders. And even better, she could
board with her Knotts Island cousin, Belle Simpson Cullipher. Belle was
the daughter of Ed Brumley’s sister; Clara, and she had married Edwin,
a fine man from the Colerain area. Belle and Edwin later returned to
Knotts Island, built a house and had two sons, Burwell and Louis. Belle
taught for many years at Creeds School with both Nita and Adell.
Much has been written about Nita’s stubbornness, but this very trait
gave her the needed strength to endure much for the remainder of her
life. Her son, Ulysses James (U .J .), when a freshman at college,
suffered the onset of mental illness. During this same period, her
husband, Ulysses, in the late 1960s suffered a heart attack and died.
Their daughter, Linda, was still in high school. Nita continued to
teach school in the Virginia Beach, VA School System and attempted for
over 20 years until her death in the early 2000’s to help her son fight
this horrible, unsought affliction.
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